Why self-appreciation?

I want to talk about self-appreciation. Wonderful information abounds about self love (I googled it), and that is not surprising considering so many of us struggle with the concept. I know I have. What does it really mean to love and appreciate myself? To care for and nurture myself? If you’re anything like me, you don’t want to be seen as self absorbed or selfish. So where is the balance? What does it look like to really appreciate ourselves and still love and serve others? How is this done? And how do we find the time for ourselves when work, family and other demands really need us?

The best I can come up with is that we just make time for it. I have learned to do this by trying to write this blog. It has been an idea in my head for years. But I have a career and a busy life. I told myself I will start tomorrow. Then the heater dies in December and takes priority, or the plumbing gets backed up. My blog? Out the window once again. Thinking back on it now, sitting here at 5:30am in the coziness of June, I could have snuggled under a blanket and blogged anyway. I heard somewhere that needing or wanting to change or accomplish something isn’t enough-you have to do it. How simple that sounds but often difficult to do. Hence the early morning wake up call (not preplanned with an alarm – I think my intuition woke me up.)

How do you make time relax, play, or grow a hobby? What do you think?

What is Appreciation?

Hi there! I’m back with more thoughts on self-appreciation, and how important I feel that it is for us to have this thing called self-care/love. I love looking up words in the dictionary. Even though I know what appreciation means, do I understand it in a relatable way – including how it relates to my relationship with myself? Appreciation is defined as 1) to be thankful for something, 2) to highly regard or value, 3) to be fully aware or conscious of something, and 4) to raise in value.

Wow, so take a peak inside yourself. I see appreciation as having gratitude, the capacity for wonder, and the ability to truly know and value what is important to me. So, what are you grateful for? What brings a sense of joy and wonder to your heart? What gives you purpose and what are your unique challenges? What do you value the most, and how do you express those values? How do you value yourself? So often I think we treat ourselves like a car we have just purchased, that starts losing value the minute we drive it off the lot. Gratitude for who we are and all we have to offer, and the simple joys in life often get brushed aside. I think we depreciate ourselves far more often than we nurture ourselves.

It’s so easy to treat our lives as something to “get done.” We are busy people. There IS a lot we want and need to accomplish. The challenge is knowing and remembering our value, that we are valuable no matter what we do. Filtering our activities and goals through the lens of self-love, and adjusting our priorities to align more with our values, is a worthy endeavor. But self-appreciation is rarely a priority and usually gets lost in the shuffle.

Self-appreciation means loving ourselves enough to practice self-affirming thoughts and activities, and living from gratitude and wholeness. This can’t be done perfectly of course, and for me, perfection isn’t even the goal. Growth is the goal. We can make progress toward our perfect ideal as we care for ourselves each day. Self love grows as we push aside negativity, focus on our assets instead of our flaws, and don’t allow busyness or other peoples opinions to divert us. We can choose. We can no longer treat ourselves like a car being driven off the lot. What do you think?